What Sex Addiction Really Looks Like?

Recovery from sex addiction is frequently misunderstood by both the general public and those going through it. At Stick By Me Counselling, we support individuals who often feel deep shame, confusion, and isolation. Many think they are "broken" or beyond help. However, the reality is that recovery is not only possible but also a powerful, continuous journey of reconnection, self-discovery, and healing.

What does recovery truly entail? Let's dispel the myths and reveal the genuine, unfiltered journey.

1. It’s Not Just About Stopping Behaviours

Recovery isn’t just about “stopping porn” or “never seeing a sex worker again.” That’s part of it, yes but focusing only on behaviour change misses the bigger picture.

Sex addiction is often a coping strategy for underlying emotional pain: trauma, loneliness, abandonment, anxiety, or unmet needs. Recovery involves going deeper, exploring:

• Why you seek that sexual high or risky encounter

• What emotions you’re avoiding

• What healthier ways you can meet those needs

2. You’ll Face Shame  And Learn How to Heal It

Many people in recovery carry shame like a second skin. You might think, “If my partner really knew everything, they’d leave me,” or “There’s something wrong with me.”

In therapy, we unpack this shame with compassion. You’re not defined by your addiction. You’re human struggling, yes  but capable of profound change. As you talk through your story in a safe space, the shame starts to loosen its grip.

3. Relationships May Be Shaken  But They Can Also Strengthen

Many people come to counselling when their relationships are on the edge  or already falling apart. Rebuilding trust with your partner takes time, honesty, and often couple’s counselling. But healing is possible.

Recovery gives you tools to:

• Be emotionally honest (with yourself and others)

• Set healthy boundaries

• Repair trust through consistent actions, not just words

Your partner might need their own support too — and that’s okay.

4. You Might Slip But That’s Not the End

Setbacks are common. A relapse doesn’t mean failure it’s a sign something deeper needs attention. We focus on:

• Understanding the trigger behind the slip

• Practicing accountability, not punishment

• Recommitting to the recovery journey without giving up

Healing isn’t linear. It’s messy, human, and worth it.

5. You’ll Build a New Relationship  With Yourself

Over time, recovery brings you home to yourself. You learn how to:

• Sit with uncomfortable emotions

• Regulate urges and stress

• Show up for yourself with kindness

You may join a support group, meditate, move your body more, or reconnect with creativity. What used to feel impossible living without secret behaviours becomes your new normal.

The Takeaway: Recovery Is About Connection

Sex addiction recovery isn’t about becoming “perfect.” It’s about becoming real. Connected. Free.

At Stick By Me Counselling, we walk alongside you through the hard stuff. We hold space for your truth without judgment because you don’t have to do this alone.

If you’re ready to start or continue your recovery journey, reach out today. You’re not beyond help. You’re human and healing is possible.

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Providing online sessions available throughout Australia 

Location: Pyrmont